Men are very simple creatures, but if you were to ask many women, you’d think we were a Gordian knot that women have no ability to cut through. In truth, women probably get in their own heads about men, and end up confusing themselves by overthinking something that doesn’t need to be.
But this one woman has men figured out down to their core.
As TikTok user “Brennatalkstoomuch” says in her video, women need to understand that men love “quests.” What does she mean by that? She explains that this might not apply to all men, but all the men she wants in her life love quests.
She notes, however, that men hate “puzzles,” and she explains what she means.
“Most men don’t want you to be coy, and confusing, and elusive,” she says. “They want you to have very clear quests that you tell them ‘this is exactly what I want, I want you to do this, and I will be happy when you do it.'”
She goes into a story one of her friends told her about how her boyfriend offered to scrape the ice off her car for her, and how nice it was. Her friend told her that she ultimately told him not to do it because she didn’t want to be “difficult” or “inconvenience” him. Brenna pushed back on him, stating that she has to remember men love quests, and that he would have happily done it for the simple reward of her being thankful and happy with him.
“Let them do the quest for you and then be super appreciative, and kind, and happy about it,” said Brenna.
“Nothing makes a man happier than completing a quest for you and you being happy and appreciative about it,” she continued.
Brenna compared it to a video game, saying that she could offer him a hot cup of coffee the moment he gets in from the job, as this will trigger the reward centers in men’s brains. He completes a quest, and she gives him resources for his trouble. “He’s leveled up” Brenna says, “he’s winning now!”
Brenna notes that when a man loves a woman, nothing makes him happier than making her happier by accomplishing quests.
She adds that women tend to minimize themselves in this regard out of a fear of being an inconvenience, but notes this isn’t how men’s brains work. It’s not an inconvenience to make our women happy through completing tasks and requests. All a woman has to do in return is be appreciative and express thankfulness.
Her final tip to ladies is “don’t say sorry,” say “thank you.” In other words, women tend to be apologetic for their belief they’re being an inconvenience or complication, when in reality they’re the reason he wants to quest in the first place.
Watch for yourself and send it to a woman you love.
This woman needs to teach a class to women about the way men’s brains work. She’s so spot on.
Ladies, learn from her. pic.twitter.com/VCmLb9V3jd
— Brandon Morse (@TheBrandonMorse) January 13, 2025
This video highlights an interesting thing to consider how men and women understand one another. It’s my honest belief that part of the reason the divide between the sexes is growing is due to a lack of education and misunderstanding about each other.
Mainstream society has, for some time, attempted to blur the line between men and women and encourage a denial of our natures, but ultimately, embracing and understanding ourselves for what we are would create an environment of trust and happiness.
