The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum Teddi Mellencamp wasn’t always firm on her decision to divorce Edwin Arroyave.
“We went to this whole couple’s therapy thing and it announced me as an introvert, and it was shocking information for everybody, even though I’ve been saying this my entire life,” Mellencamp, 43, said during the Thursday, January 16, episode of her “Diamonds in the Rough” podcast. “I am naturally an introvert, so I enjoy my alone time [and] I need to recharge.”
Despite finding solace in the quiet moments, she wasn’t ready for the heightened solitude of getting divorced. (Mellencamp separated from Arroyave, 47, in fall 2024 and filed for divorce that November.)
“There’s moments that I’m feeling now, where I feel really lonely and I don’t know if those loneliness feelings mean that I’ve made a mistake or this is just something I have to get used to and this is the new change in my life,” Mellencamp questioned, trying to hold back tears. “Oh my gosh, I’m so embarrassed I’m getting emotional, but that it is such a confusing part of all of this.”
She continued, “Are you supposed to power through or are you supposed to give it [time]?”
Mellencamp’s podcast cohost, Erika Jayne — whose own personal life hit headlines in 2020 following her split from now-disbarred lawyer Thomas Girardi — chimed in to share her support.
“She’s in the thick of it right now, and it’s very fresh and very hard,” Jayne, 53, said on the Thursday episode. “I feel for her because none of this is easy and to pick yourself up and even be on a podcast today and talk about it. You know, Teddi, you need to cut yourself a break. If you didn’t say you felt lonely, I would be worried that you were.”
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For Mellencamp, it feels like she has a “constant ache” that she’s “trying to fake [her] way through” each day.
“I have talked about this in therapy, but it’s almost, like, I’m attracted to another chaotic situation,” Mellencamp explained. “I don’t want to give too much away about my parents or anything like that, but clearly my dad [John Mellencamp] was a rock star. He met some girl at the Rainbow Room and it was my mom and they had babies [while] he was married already. Like, everything was a s— show.”
Teddi continued, “There’s been a lot of ups and downs in my life, and my only goal has ever been … to give my kids stability. I don’t know if it’s loneliness or I feel scared, [but] I also don’t feel like I’m enough, like, all those things.”
Teddi and Arroyave share daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, as well as son Cruz, 10. (Arroyave is also father to daughter Isabella, 15, from a past relationship.)
